To be honest the big change for me was during Covid Lockdown. Perhaps something changed in my views and beliefs about people. I think it was me having a more mature view of what people are really like. Everyone is trying to survive and sometimes they don’t have enough energy to spare on you. Sometimes it’s hard to fully open up to someone, because we have been hurt before and being vulnerable is scary for our egos.
Sometimes I was furious at people because I put them up as a high priority and they didn’t. I tried really hard to keep the friendship but in the end it didn’t follow through. I believe it is important to know when your efforts are going to be wasted and to not exert yourself more than needed. It is important to give more but when the effort is futile then there is no point. Don’t hold on to resentment, and the frustration that things could have been better. Instead, be grateful it happened and look forward to the other relations you can have, even if it is with yourself.
On a trip to Sri Lanka I found that I was socialising everyday and it felt great. I never felt lonely and socialising was as easy as waiting for my cousins to come and see me from down the road. This shows that this is a modern problem, where our busy schedules filled with time on a computer and harder work environments means that we are missing out on a healthy social life.
Location is the biggest factor. Consider moving to where human interaction is easier. I think this is usually in less developed areas, like the countryside. Join a sports club, like a football club (or soccer club if you prefer). Sport is great as it is not mentally demanding and you can just talk and have a good time. Use social media to your advantage, and find some niche apps that can help you with socialising. Consider doing university and really get yourself out there and join societies.