This is something that most people would want in their lives. To me, it’s great, but what is even better is freedom to work on what you truly want to work on as well as receiving all the value you give, such as being your own boss. I feel like whenever you work for someone, you are offering a service that they would rather pay you a certain amount then do the job themselves. And because buisnesess need to make a profit, your salary is often less than your value to the company. A lot of the times this is a fair deal and I certainly see myself working for people. However my dream is to be able to start a business and work for myself. We are so lucky in this era that all levels of education is now accessible online, but the qualification may not be there. If I have enough money to live off my dividends of my investments, then I would still need purpose in my life. Currently that purpose is to contribute to open source software and to make dev logs and how tos on my progress. It’s going to take years of effort before I can start to make money, but I am a huge fan of slow, steady and exponential growth.
This is similar to my previous post about how you can often give too much and not receive a lot from people. Perhaps some people just stop talking to you for months. In that case, not being dependant on any one friend, or even a friend group or community. We are social creatures and I would argue that most of us need people in our lives, but going without people intentionally for a set period of time will open your eyes on what socialising is really like. Perhaps don’t use your phone for a week, and see what changes in your mind. A lot of us get into relationships by serendipity, but I believe that being able to learn how to attract someone is invaluable as you are more in control of how things happen and you aren’t leaving things to chance. A lot of us fall into the idea that you just have to work on yourself and the right person will come along, and while there is some truth to this, I would also recommend the complete opposite, socialise and learn to flirt immediately and get out of your comfort zone. You need both the action of pursuing your love life without over-thinking as well as the introspection and pragmatic approach to self improvement.
There are certain things in life that you may consider to be commitments that you must do regardless of how you feel. Things like working towards your goals, or even brushing your teeth and showering. I’ve realised I am someone who is moved by my feelings more than I should be. You should do things you care about no matter how you feel. Unless there is a really hard feeling, or you are having a very low mental health day. Otherwise, you only get to live this life once, so push yourself! Aside from feelings, there is the tendency to be logical. It has come to my attention that someone I look up to has got themselves in trouble with the public and “cancelled” because he used logic in a place where logic isn’t the right tool. Don’t be logical in a romantic relationship. People who are driven and somewhat successful often struggle with romantic relationships because they are too serious. It’s good to be able to do many things.
This is a controversial one, so skip ahead if this isn’t for you! I think that a lot of society runs on shaming people for their sexual preferences and likes and dislikes. We all think about sex often, but we are told it’s taboo to talk about. That being said, there are a lot of power games when it comes to sex. Have you had sex with enough people? Have you had sex with too many? Did you begin with this person too early? The list of worries goes on. It is important to know that repression isn’t a good thing, and it can lead to frustration and not feeling good about oneself. On the flip side, the point I want to bring across is that almost every religion speaks about sexual control and I think that’s more than a coincidence. This is because it can be overpowering and way too much thought and action is directed towards increasing ones ability to have more sex. It’s one thing to increase this, but it is wise to do the opposite, and control yourself. Being able to not let it control your actions and being able to direct that energy to something else, like programming. Not having that huge dopamine spike so that you can focus and enjoy all of life’s little wonders. It’s a fast like any other.