I personally think conflict resolution is the most important thing in a relationship. Sometimes relationships can fuel your ego, and make you falsely believe that your relationship is different from the others. Unfortunately this is not true rationally speaking. It is better to accept that you are going to be flawed, and so arguments will occur, and you will have the right tools to help you navigate the times of stress and anger. I have heard leo talk about how in a relationship you are expected to give more than you expect to receive.
Being dependant on your partner puts too much pressure on them, stunts your personal growth and is generally a bad philosophy. Being independent of each other is better but there isn’t really a mutual benefit from being in the relationship, It’s amazing that you can live on your own but the best choice is interdependence, which is the idea that you can survive without each other, but you work together well and help each other improve in certain aspects, and are therefore not limited in that regard.
To me interdependence means that I can keep my own private space, for example my phone or computer password, but that being said I will make sure there is nothing on there that my partner would not like. It’s about not worrying about what others may think or worrying about if this is a good way to do things. Rather it is about finding your own rhythm and catering to your own personal needs.
Sometimes you can get all the logical aspects of a relationship right, but there might not be that connection. There isn’t that emotional fulfillment. Especially in a romantic relationship emotional nourishment is vital. There has to be that happiness and connection. It is important to get your authentic self out there and allowing your authentic self to be rejected, as that is the only way to find a partner that will be with your for life. Being loving is hard to explain but easy to understand.